It took me months to admit I might be Sensitive. I hated the idea since the admission seemed to carry with it a connotation of weakness. As I’ve learned more about the trait and living the life of an HSP in our hyped up world, I’ve adjusted my thinking.
I suppose it seems weak if a person can’t sit through violent movies. I suppose it appears to be weakness if a man chooses to go home after work instead of going for a drink with the guys. I suppose it looks as if a woman is weak if she becomes overwhelmed quickly in a highly stimulating environment. I’m sure it must suggest weakness if a person is constantly empathizing with others instead of getting on with life.
While all those scenarios are true of HSP’s, it must be remembered that we don’t like or do those things because of a weakness, we behave this way because our wiring. Which means most of what we do requires a level of bravery that others don’t need to employ.
It’s a brave soul that moves beyond the constant fight or flight tension to engage with a stranger and get to know them. It’s a brave man that speaks out against an observed injustice in the workplace. It’s a brave woman that disciplines her involuntary empathy to pass up a relationship with a narcissist. It’s a brave person that notices the oddball in the crowd and pulls them in to feel more comfortable. It’s a brave individual that pushes back the fear and reaches out to help, teach, guide, and care, because we don’t just see the suffering around us, we feel it as equally and as vividly, and we’ll do damn near anything to ease the suffering in this world.
It’s a two sided coin for sure. HSP’s appear to exist along the sidelines, preferring less exposure since we’re already inherently exposed; yet we often lead the way in situations that necessitate diplomacy, empathy, and the ability to see details while simultaneously observing the big picture. The only way we have the ability for doing so is by literally ignoring, or overcoming, or swallowing the energy of every alarm system going off within us. Such acts require a deep well of bravery that only HSP’s possess.
We are the bravest of them all.