Promises

Losing a child is an unfathomable event, but these things I promise you:

You will feel like your body has failed you. It hasn’t. And someday it will prove this to you.

You will feel as if the darkness inside has no end, and no matter how bright the sun, there will never be a light in your heart again.  But the darkness will eventually give way to light, time is your friend.

You will feel that you will never be able to manage a genuine smile again. A day will come, though, when that smile crosses your face and you realize you have survived somehow.

You will feel like no one can understand your pain. You will be right. But there are those who would at least help carry it for a minute. There are those who will at least validate your heartbreak.

You will feel robbed, indeed you have been. Yet there are gifts that arrive with the pain – deeper understanding, greater appreciation of joy, the ability to live in the moment.

You will be tempted towards bitterness, it can’t be helped. However, the human spirit is strong and resilient, you will be able to find peace instead.

You will be angry. It’s okay. There is nothing fair or right or just about this, your anger is righteous.

You will die inside from grief, but I promise you will live again one day for happiness.