About a Bey, And Other Girls

Religious leader Louis Farrakhem recently admonished Jay Z to “cover up his wife.”   His remarks are eerily similar to political leader Mike Huckabee whom earlier in the year, called out Jay Z over the same thing in his book, “Guns, Grits, and Gravy.”

I am a bit mystified over the issue.  Why Beyonce?

Why call out Beyonce when one of America’s most famous teens is known for posting topless instagram photos, advocating for daily masturbation, and twerking against the crotch of a man much older than her – on national television?  Her mom is apparently with her, by her side, to witness the antics in first-person. Her mom!  Yet. Not one word from gentlemen’s Farrakhem or Huckabee about this girl covering up (maybe pasties count after all?).  Why?

Why call out Beyonce when a momager brokered her daughter’s sex tape, thus catapulting a reality TV family into a paparazzi dream?   We’ve watched the same mom sexualize her two youngest daughters before their time, so that everyone knew the seventeen year old was boinking the twenty-five year old, but hey, its okay, she’ll be eighteen in a month.  (Just don’t hold hands yet, ya know, in public.)   But Mr.’s Farrakhem and Huckabee are noticeably silent on the this example of ‘pimping’.  Why?

Because it’s not about sexuality, that’s why.  It’s about the husband’s job to keep his wife in line.  Maybe Tish Cyrus and Kris Jenner can be overlooked since they’re just moms; and anyway, kids will be kids these days, right?  But for a husband to allow, and even endorse, the public sexuality of his own wife is something completely at odds with the indoctrination that a wife must be quiet, subservient, and dependent upon her man.

Beyonce is a powerful woman.  She earned success before she married her husband.  She’s always been sexy, dirty, and gritty.  She must be made of some kind of steel to muster the courage to dismiss her own father as her manager – tough cookie.  Which is exactly the point. It’s not just that Beyonce needs to cover up, the issue is that she’s independent.   She’s bothersome because she demonstrates that a woman can be sexy and at the same time call her own shots, make her own money, manage her own business, and sculpt her public image.  She doesn’t need a husband, she chooses to have one.   She isn’t dependent upon him for her happiness. From a religious standpoint, this means her husband isn’t the beginning and ending of her purpose in life, and that’s problematic for the Farrakhems and Huckabees of the world.  So the advice of ‘covering up’ is really a euphemism for “you are not in control as a man, your wife is independent of you and that’s wrong, you must assert your authority and force her to bend to your will.  A real man is an authority over his woman.”

There are scores of women whose presence in social media garner attention of the most lascivious kind.  Mr. Farrakhem and Mr. Huckabee choose instead to focus upon a husband who can’t keep his woman under control.   That’s why Beyonce.

Yours, Frankie

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About Frankie Wallace

Frankie earned her BA in History from CSU Chico. She lives in northern California with one husband, two dogs, and three boys. Frankie is an avid cooker, reader, hiker, and napper. View all posts by Frankie Wallace

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